According to research, Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD) has characterised by excessive, uncontrollable and often irrational worry, anxious expectation about events or activities. You can either be overly dependent or too distant from other people. And with that, it can be a great factor as to why it can have a negative impact in many aspects of your life, including your relationships.
Being Overly Dependent
Some people diagnosed with GAD tend to need for an intense desire for closeness from other people since they struggle to take care of themselves.
Individuals with GAD may find themselves being a pessimist, they tend to doubt and belittle their abilities and assets, and may always tell themselves that they are dull-witted. They receive criticism and disapproval as proof of their worthlessness and lose faith in themselves. They also seek protection and dominance from people around them. A person with GAD also tends to become anxious when forced to decide on certain situations.
Because of the following characteristics, these people and their dependent relationships may cause anger to their partner. This could result in a misunderstanding that can become destructive or even suspiciousness that their partner is not faithful or does not love them as they do. With friendships, it could be that they are suspicious that their friend talks behind their back.
Combating Overly Dependence
If you feel that these things seem like something you do, developing ways to cope up with your anxiety is important, instead of relying on other people, try to trust yourself more. In that way, you can take the pressure away that you give to your partner or friend.
For instance, because of overthinking, you usually think of thoughts that are not even possible and paranoid that your partner is cheating on you. Instead of confronting them, relax first, remind yourself that maybe your thoughts are just fueled by your anxiety. Look for facts that could support your worry. If there’s none, control yourself, think of happy thoughts, and look for other ways to make yourself busy.
From another point of view, people with GAD also like to spare themselves from other people, they are independent and detached from emotions, they avoid expressing their negative feelings so that they won’t look vulnerable or sensitive. In relationships, they lean towards becoming cold and inconsiderate, emotionally unavailable and lack sympathy to their partners and to the people around them.
If you see yourself having the symptoms mentioned above, looking for professional assistance can help you explore the causes of you being overly distant and improve your interpersonal skills.
If you are struggling with this anxiety disorder, know that you are not alone! Also, please reach out for help, because the sooner we start talking about and working on our struggles, the sooner we can start to feel better.